How to Deal With People Who Are ToXiC - E-book - ePub

The objective of this book is to inform you how to identify the toxic individuals that compromise and contaminate your life. It outlines strategies for communicating your concerns to them and then, if and when necessary, describes the process for ejecting them from your life, physically, psychologically, neurologically and emotionally. Once you've done this, you free up vital energies for doing things that you want to do, and no longer need to pay any attention to them.
Comprehensive strategies are outlined for dealing with Toxics and eliminating them from your life. The issues of eradicating CyberToxics (the type that harass and stalk you via the Internet and various online devices) are explored in depth. It's also clear that a Toxic may leave some psychological baggage even when you have discharged them, so strategies for destroying any lingering toxic residue in your mind and brain are discussed.
A working appreciation of neuroplasticity, the means by which you can destroy toxic neural networks within your brain whilst making positive, lasting cognitive change, is outlined. Along the way, you'll meet a number of characters or archetypes that illustrate the major points. You'll be introduced to Lupus and Fenris, the wolves of love and hate; badass mythopoeic metaphors for the more reserved and planning rational side of the brain, and the faster, less inhibited emotional forces that rush into action to mobilise you to fight or escape from dangerous situations.
Nicki Narcissi, a somewhat odious individual, will demonstrate why Necrotic Narcissists are bad to be around; and more positively, you'll thrill to the exploits of Visantaka, one of three fictional Toxic Terminators who have survived the Toxipocalypse. Sometimes it's good to have a superhero batting for you. Also addressed is the contentious issue of whether or not you should don your military fatigues, tool up with your metaphorical weapons of choice, marshal your resources and engage in trench warfare with your Toxic adversary.
Toxic family members and career or academic colleagues, the types you currently can't escape being physically exposed to, are dissected. Sometimes clusters of Toxics confront you, and in this case, different techniques are required. Once you are a Toxic-free zone, it's important to ensure that you spend your time with supportive people and ensure that another Toxic does not sneak into your life. So this book discusses the matter of choosing the right friends, and working out when one may go rogue and turn toxic.
This is a large book of over 120, 000 words. You might see it as 'The Bumper Book of Toxics'. It can be dipped into, so you can focus on ideas of interest or pragmatism if you seek inspiration or concepts you can use quickly, or read from cover to cover if you require a more comprehensive view. Although Toxics are rarely a laughing matter, a significant portion of this information is presented in a humorous light, which helps you to enjoy, remember and act.
As is required by the subject matter, some of the tone is sardonic, satirical and pitch black. This can also put things into perspective and helps you remember that there is a world that is much richer and more interesting than many of us think. This assists in putting the Toxic in their rightful place - permanently out of your life. How to Deal With People Who Are ToXiC contains strong language and powerful imagery.