No More Bullying - How To Deal with a Bully for Teenagers - E-book - ePub

Have ??u ?v?r th?ught about wh? ??m? kids ?r? bulli?d and ?th?r? are n?v?r ???r???h?d b? th? bully? A? a f?rm?r child-victim of ju?t ?b?ut ?v?r? bull? in m? school and n?ighb?rh??d - I did. And, ?ft?r lit?r?ll? recreating m? life with the lessons th?t actually w?rk, I di???v?r?d something v?r? powerful. I di???v?r?d that th? v?r? thing th?t i? m??t lacking in vi?tim? ?f bulli??, i? the ?x??t ??m? trigger that the bull? is l??king f?r!The f??u? of thi? ?rti?l? i? ?n th??? tr?it? ?nd characteristics th?t ??t victims ?f bull?ing behavior apart fr?m just about ?v?r??n? else! Wh?t I w?nt t? share with ??u today i? th? ?n?w?r to the ?g? ?ld ?u??ti?n..."Wh? is your ?hild the vi?tim ?f bulli???"And, regardless ?f whether it i? because ??ur ??n ?r d?ught?r i?....
Diff?r?nt. Sh?. Qui?t. W??k. G??. S?n?itiv?. F?t. Skinn?Or wh?t?v?r. It just d???n't matter. The f??t ?f th? m?tt?r is th?t n? ?n? is r??uir?d to "lik?" ??ur ?hild. Oh sure, we're ?ll t?ught t? ?????t ?n? another's diff?r?n???. But d??? th?t really ?h?ng? ?n?thing?N?t really. On th? outside m??b?. But then, ?ll th?t ?h?ng?? i? th?t m??t ?f u? "choose" t? n?t ??? ?r ??t ?n the th?ught? we h?v? about others wh?m w? consider to b?....
Funn?-l??king. Strange. R?t?rd?d. Stu?idOr ?n? other descriptors th?t w? u?? ?n a r?gul?r b??i? - but n?v?r ????k out l?ud. The r??lit? ?f th? w?rld is that th?r? will ?lw??? b? those wh? do n?t filter th?ir thoughts, words, ?nd ??ti?n? - th?r? will ?lw??? be ????l? who b?li?v? th?t, to g?t wh?t they want, it i? ?k?? t? u?? f?r??, or the threat of f?r?? t? g?t it!"But, I can h??r ??u ??king, "wh?t does this h?v? t? d? with th? kids wh? ?r?n't b?ing bulli?d?" Wh? am I t?lking ?b?ut your child, ?nd th? th?ught? th?t you h?v? about others?And here i? th? ??int.
Th? ??int is th?t, n?ith?r you, I, or ?n? l?w ever ?r??t?d ??n r??ll? stop th??? wh? r??ll? w?nt t? ??t out in h?rmful, d??tru?tiv? w???. And that g??? f?r bull?ing t??!N? ?m?unt ?f r?-?du??ti?n, ?uni?hm?nt, or ?tt?m?t? to r????n with ????l? wh? "want" t? bully, is g?ing t? stop bullying. And, thi? i? where th? ??luti?n lies... It d???n't h?v? t?!No. B???u??, if w? could ju?t ??? b???nd the fact th?t it'? "our child" wh?'? b?ing bulli?d, we could see th?t th? vast majority of kids in ??ur child's gr?u?...
Are NOT b?ing bulli?d!And, th? r????n f?r that i? two-fold. Fir?t, there ?r? certain traits th?t the bullies are looking f?r, th?t your ?hild n?t only ?????????, but di??l??? ???nl? th?t ?ttr??t bullies t? th?m. And... Th? way th?t ??ur child r????nd? to a bully's ?dv?n??? t?ll? th? bull? that h?'? f?und wh?t h? needs - a victim. S?, why d?n't m??t kids have to deal with bulli??? It's b???u?? th?? d? n?t ?xhibit th? tr?it? and ?ign?l? th?t bulli?? ?r? looking f?r, and wh?n ??m??n? d??? approach them with bull?ing b?h?vi?r...
Th?? don't respond in a w?? th?t m?k?? themselves an ????m?li?? t? th?ir own bullying!Th?? possess th? ?n? tr?it that is virtu?ll? guaranteed t? m?k? ?n? bull? look elsewhere. And th?t trait i?:"C?nfid?n??!