The Soul Mate Illusion - E-book - ePub

This is a psychological non-fiction book teaching some ideas about true love and real intimacy. True love requires both Truth as well as Love, Love as well as Truth. Real love requires both Love and Reality - knowing the real other person, not a fantasy of who we want them to be, or imagine them to be, when we are first falling in love. The book teaches us to identify some of the illusions about love which we usually fail to see when we are falling in love (or as the author put it, in and as the title of his previous book, Falling For Love).
But it has many ideas too relevant to long-term intimate partnerships. Thus I ask the readers to confront things like:our own narcissism when falling in (or for) love;our need for an over-special uniqueness in their partner;. our need for our connection to be magical (and thus so spontaneous and easy that no conflict should occur, or if it does, that it gets magically resolved);. our need for all our life's problems to be healed "by the method" of falling in loveand so on .